CRISIS

IT DEEPLY AFFECTS ME WHEN I HEAR ABOUT SOMEONE GETTING A DIVORCE OR BREAKING UP FROM A LONG RELATIONSHIP.  WHEN I HEAR THIS, I KNOW THE PERSON IS GOING THROUGH A PROFOUND CRISIS.  INEVITABLY I GO BACK TO MY OWN BREAK-UPS AND I REMEMBER HOW PEOPLE WOULD TALK TO ME.  THEY WOULD LOOK AT ME LOVINGLY AND SORROWFULLY SAYING, “I’M SO SORRY.”  IT WOULD NOT BE WHAT I WANTED TO HEAR.   INSTEAD THEY SHOULD HAVE SAID, “WELCOME TO A NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR LIFE!!!”  BREAKUPS AND DIVORCES WHETHER ROMANTIC, WORK OR FRIENDSHIP ASSOCIATED ARE ALWAYS OPPORTUNITIES.  “WHAT DOES THE UNIVERSE HAVE HOLDING FOR ME NOW?” IT IS HELPFUL TO REMEMBER THAT EVERY RELATIONSHIP IN OUR LIVES SERVES AS A LIFE LESSON. EVERY SINGLE PERSON WHO HAS PASSED THROUGH OUR LIVES HAS CONTRIBUTED TO OUR GROWTH.

WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ENDS, OUR SOUL LITERALLY GOES INTO A CRISIS MODE. I IMAGINE THAT IF YOU WERE TO TAKE AN X-RAY OF OUR SOUL WHEN WE ARE BROKEN, IT WOULD BE TWISTED AND INJURED, SWOLLEN AND HURT.  BUT WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE, I IMAGINE THAT OUR SOULS UNDERGO A SIMILARLY DRASTIC CHANGE.  IT GLOWS.  IT IS WARM AND ENERGETIC.  BEING IN LOVE IS ALSO LIKE TAKING AN IRRESISTIBLE COCKTAIL OF EMOTIONS…AND I THOUGHT TEQUILA WAS BAD…

THE CHINESE CHARACTER FOR THE WORD CRISIS IS COMPOSED BY TWO WORDS OVERLAPPING THAT DESCRIBE THE SITUATION.   “IN EVERY CRISIS LIES THE SEED OF OPPORTUNITY.” WE DO FEEL OVERWHELMED AND DEVASTATED WITH LOSS. THE FEELINGS THAT COME TO SURFACE DEEPLY HURT US. WE ONLY SEE THE TIME WE HAVE INVESTED IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BUT WE SEEM TO FORGET THAT OUR INVESTMENT WAS DONE BY THE OTHER PARTY, TOO. THE LOSS GOES BOTH WAYS.

THIS MAKES ME THINK OF AN EXPRESSION THAT I HEARD WHEN I FIRST MOVED HERE …. HOW DOES THAT EXPRESSION GO?  IT IS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THAN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL?  YES, THAT’S IT. THAT’S VERY MUCH IT!

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