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By July 30, 2023August 22nd, 2023No Comments

Traicion, Trahison, Betrayal. *Betrayal is an ugly word in any language. The word and the action itself is an ugly thing.

I’m not a psychologist, but I think that in order to betray someone, your brain takes on temporary sociopathy. This is true for any of us; Politicians, friends, lovers, even children.

I don’t think a single human being hasn’t been betrayed at some point in their life. Subconsciously and consciously, I think we have all betrayed someone, as well. But when we betray someone, we feel very justified in our reasoning.

I used to believe that if someone was unfaithful to you, it had to be one of the most painful feelings that you could experience. It is a betrayal, but now I think betrayal of any kind can exist at the same excruciating level of pain. Perhaps experiencing betrayal is a part of growing up, it affects everyone at some point in their lives, like love and hate.

Psychologist Carl Jung states that pain is a necessary part of a human’s life, to help us learn. “Live and learn” is a good expression for a reason.

The Yin and Yang within us rules our lives. The truth is when we are good and when we are bad, we are only considering our own agendas whether we mean to or not.

How do I feel when I am betrayed? I feel literally sick to my stomach, my heart feels true pain. I doubt and question myself: “what could I have done to deserve this?” “What could I have done to prevent this?” Either I didn’t see it coming, or I did and didn’t want to acknowledge the possibility.

But, let’s not fall into feeling sorry for ourselves. Instead, lets- like someone once said: “Don’t Get Mad, Get Everything.” The first reader to send me an email telling me whose quote that is, I will give you a $40 gift certificate to Goler Shoes!

And I don’t mean to use this quote in a materialistic way, I mean it as in: Get Everything by making the best out of your situation. Search your soul; learn from your actions, from others actions. Wisdom is the best and gentlest revenge. Soren Kierkegaard said, “Life must be lived forward but can only be understood backwards.” However, do not dwell on the past; you can only use that knowledge to change the future. So hard to do. One of the hardest things to cope with is when you BETRAY YOURSELF. It is so hard because there is no one else to blame, no one else to be upset with, except yourself.

I invite you to take a minute to reflect on a time you have been betrayed, or when you have … betrayed someone.